letting myself bow to the pressure to be out has been one of my greatest regrets.
An article from a friend of mine about being out except to her parents and how this is related to the QPOC community and experience.
Short but good.
“parents just don’t understand” — DJ Jazzy Jeff
“…I think that this is particularly a problem when we talk about representations of feminism itself at the expense of feminist issues. That is, ‘Why does feminism have such a bad image in ways that don’t match up with the realities of feminism?’ is the wrong question to be asking. By referencing this question, I don’t mean that feminism doesn’t deserve some of its bad image: it has been ineffective and actively harmful in so many ways for the most vulnerable women (co-opting the stories of women in developing countries, instigating violence against trans women…). I’m referring to feminists wondering why feminism is widely thought of as dead, or silly, or the domain of “shrieking harpies” wanting to take over the world. I think we should be focusing on the issues at hand; investing in the issues feminism is meant to solve, not the image of the movement itself. When we become concerned with feminism’s representation as something to be overcome, when feminism becomes about defending the identity rather than doing the work, that’s when we have a big problem. It’s good to know that “this is what a feminist looks like,” but looking like a feminist shouldn’t come at the expense of doing feminist work.”
Great article— I completely sympathize with this. All this time we spend on making feminism appear “sexy” and “not all that bad,” we lose out on tackling the issues. At this point, I’m no longer concerned with whether Sarah Palin has a right to call herself a feminist. I’m concerned with a blatantly anti-woman GOP using her as fodder to placate those who call for better representation.
My personal policy: no more nice grrrl. Something like feminist justice shouldn’t have to be a sugar-coated compromise.
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Twenty-something white man on his cell phone. (via microaggressions) UGH. Because, y’know, wearing fruit on your head and shakin’ your ass is what being Latina is all about! Now looking all dignified and shit, that’s just no fun. |
The first is that true gender equality is actually perceived as inequality. A group that is made up of 50% women is perceived as being mostly women. A situation that is perfectly equal between men and women is perceived as being biased in favor of women.
And if you don’t believe me, you’ve never been a married woman who kept her family name. I have had students hold that up as proof of my “sexism.” My own brother told me that he could never marry a woman who kept her name because “everyone would know who ruled that relationship.” Perfect equality - my husband keeps his name and I keep mine – is held as a statement of superiority on my part.
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Fanfic Symposium: When Worlds Collide (via thefuror) I find myself shocked when women make up more then 1/3 of reoccurring characters :/ (via stfukyriarchy) this quote is so amazing omgggggg (via stfufauxminists) This is spot on. For a patriarchal society, equality is threatening and assigned as the “real sexism” because women aren’t “in their place” where they “belong.” It challenges the system by asserting the notion of women as equal human beings and not property, and frankly, the fact that people have been unwittingly brainwashed to perceive the world under these terms pisses me the fuck off. (via lavidaescorta) really thinking about this. and how cal and i co-parent. but because he actually does his share. i have been told - by men and women - that he does most of the child care. in fucking credible. (via guerrillamamamedicine) |
Bisexuality Comics Part 2! I may even do a third one to talk about percentages/Kinsey scale, but this is just another branch of that tree.
Reblog if you like it!
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Seriously, I gag when I have to write about James Joyce and somehow manage to write 10 pages on Foucault and feminism with no sweat. I curse the day I decided to be a lit major.
It is not in this age of preoccupation with the rights of man and general concern for liberties that girls ought to continue to believe themselves their families’ slaves, when it is clearly established that these families’ power over them is totally illusory… By what right, hence, are other duties incumbent upon the children of men? And what is the basis of these duties if not the father’s greed or ambition? Well, I ask if it is just that a young girl who is beginning to feel and reason be submitted to such constraints. Is it not prejudice which all unaided forges those chains? And is there anything more ridiculous than to see a maiden of fifteen or sixteen, consumed by desires she is compelled to suppress, wait, and while waiting, endure worse than hell’s torments until it pleases her parents, having first rendered her youth miserable, further to sacrifice her riper years… when they associate her, despite her wishes, with a husband who either has nothing wherewith to make himself loves, or who possesses everything to make himself hated?
No, Eugenie, such bonds are quickly dissolved; it is necessary that when once she reaches the age of reason the girl be detached from the paternal household… she be left her own mistress, to become what she wishes.
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